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  • The Gift of Conference
  • Kids in Transition
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President's Message
By Susan Tokayer, INA co-president

Becky KavanaghINA’s 28th annual conference in Louisville was a great one. I have come to expect certain things from INA conferences, like good food, excellent networking opportunities, informative workshops, an opportunity to meet the NOTY and so many more things. I was not disappointed. The conference ran smoothly and I got to experience all of the things that are a part of INA’s conferences.

There were a couple of welcomed surprises that made the conference even more special. First, Louisville, a town I had never visited, is a charming, active city. All of the attendees would probably agree that the location of the Hyatt, where we stayed, was perfect. Just outside the hotel doors were numerous restaurants to choose from.  We were within walking distance of the Slugger museum, the Mohammed Ali Center, the Ohio River and many more points of interest. 

Keynote speaker, Deborah Gilboa, M.D., kicked off conference speaking to us about respect and resilience. Dr. Gilboa infused us all with energy that stayed with us for the next couple of days. I’m betting that most attendees had a few aha moments listening to Dr. Gilboa. I know I did!  Raffle Queen and Court 2013 Confernce

Joanne Barrow and Nikki Gribble NOTY Luncheon 2013 Conference

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The workshops got high ratings and everyone enjoyed networking and visiting the exhibitors during the breaks. Our NOTY luncheon, that is always special, was one of the highlights. This year we had four excellent nominees. It was sad to see Nikki Gribble retire, but exciting to welcome our new NOTY, Joanne Barrow. This year we also honored our past NOTY’s with their own NOTY logos. It was great that so many of our past NOTY’s were present. It was a thrill seeing them all lined up together on the stage! 

The closing reception featured one of our favorite activities—the raffle! Sorry to say that I wasn’t one of the big winners this year, but it was so much fun. Alice Shaffer and her helpers did a great job, as usual. 

If you missed conference don’t despair. We are already planning our 29th conference in L.A.  and you’re invited! 

The Gift of Conference
By Greta Schraer

The annual INA conference has become a treasured staple in my year. No matter how my life and career has twisted and turned, conference has met me each time with inspiration.

We tend to carve out time and resources for the priorities in our lives. The INA conference has become a priority for me. I desire to be a life-long learner, but I have 2013 INA Conference Workshoptaken home much more than a swag bag and great notes. Invaluable things like keys to the nanny profession help to develop community with nannies, personal challenge, rewarding moments, lifelong friendships, and clues to raising a healthy kid. And though  I save and invest to attend this annual conference, I can honestly say that INA has invested much more in me. I am a better person, nanny, mom, and leader, and I can even see the impact that INA is making on the nanny industry in my city.

I encourage you to set your agenda for next spring. Set yourself and your career up for success and progress. Be challenged and Past NOTYreceive the gift conference has to offer.
After attending my 5th INA conference this year, I returned home eager and empowered. A little time away connecting with so many professionals with the desire for growth, well, it is simply inspiring. I have a debriefing routine; I do a few things to make sure that I really get the most out of my conference experience. After returning home, I reach out to new friends and connect with professionals through social media. I often re-read my workshop notes several times with a highlighter in hand. Each year I seem to find an overall personal theme with a few action steps. Personal and professional goals are set for the next year all because I put myself in a place to be challenged.
It is an opportunity for time away from real life. For some it’s an educational vacation, for others a business boost. It really has the possibility to be just what you may need in your career.

Kids in Transition 
By Joanne Barrow, 2013 INA Nanny of the Year

Joanne BarrowTransitional periods in a person’s life differ depending on many circumstances. They can be exhilarating and filled with optimism to some and can be equally scary and loaded with anxiety for others. As adults we have the fortitude to see an end in sight, a light at the end of the tunnel. For children it’s not always so clear and instead of recognizing as we do that it’s just a matter of time and we’ll adjust they see no end to the change at hand and therefore these “transitional periods” feel permanent and weigh heavily. I wanted to pose the question of what we as nannies can do to ease these times of uncertainty.

First let’s look at a few examples of transitions children may face. Perhaps one might be the arrival of a new sibling, their beloved nanny might be moving on, or perhaps they’re facing a house move which inevitably means a new neighborhood,  new school, new friends.  Harder still might be the loss of a loved one or family pet, separating or divorcing parents.

Wherever there’s change, there’s more need than ever to provide stability in daily routines. At the same time we can’t be rigid and need to adapt to whatever transition is taking place. Sound like an oxymoron? Well, it is a little; that’s where intuitive thinking, empathy and an unlimited capacity for patience comes in. The list of possibilities where change occurs in life is endless but there are a few universal methods we can all use to help a child in our care cope a little easier.

  • Listen – Reassure them that what they’re feeling is normal and that you understand. Validate their feelings by letting them know you’re sorry they’re struggling, and that you know it must be hard. Kids, like us, feel better just knowing they’re being heard and understood and your patient listening ear goes a long way to providing comfort. You don’t have to try to “fix” the problem, just listen and encourage them to tell their story as often as they feel the need to.
  • Pay extra attention – to noticeable changes in the child’s physical and emotional behavior, sleep, eating and even play patterns. You are a valuable source in recognizing subtle shifts and while it’s never a nanny’s job to diagnose a child, it is her responsibility to bring anything and everything to the parents’ attention so they can take the proper measures to best help their children.
  •  How are YOU coping? - Are you showing fear and worry or hope and optimism?  Nannies are always modeling and times of transition are perfect opportunities to exhibit positivity and resilience.
  • Grieving is a process - There are no right and wrong time frames for dealing with it. You don’t have to guess your way through this challenging time and no one expects you to innately have all the answers. Do some research online; there are many helpful resources available. For those of you who took Dr. Deborah Gilboa’s workshop at conference, Helping Children Cope With Grief, you’ll recall her saying that grief offers opportunities. She went on to tell us how it can help kids form deeper connections, develop self-understanding and reach out for help; and she finished in true Dr. G form by reminding us again that grief builds resilience. So many great take-aways, but my personal favorite was to tell a child who needed a break from their sadness, “Put your worry in my hands for 20 minutes and go play. I’ll hold it for you.” Think about that for a moment.... Wouldn’t it be nice if someone offered to hold your troubles for 20 minutes? What a break!
  • Laughter - A great way to reduce stress and anxiety. Have a good supply of jokes in your repertoire and pop them in at just the right moment. Obviously you’ll need to gauge the situation to be sure a joke’s appropriate, but humor can be a great stress buster. Don’t be afraid to be silly either; kids love it when you are and a good belly laugh goes a long way to providing relief in tense situations.
  • Read about it - Visit the library and find an age-appropriate book that addresses the transition in a way your child can understand and relate to.
  • Show empathy – Children aren’t born understanding empathy. It’s a learned skill and they appreciate receiving it when they’re struggling. The more we exhibit empathy, the sooner they learn to pay it forward.
  • Teach them to breathe – When stressed it takes kids all they have to maintain composure. Learning to manage frustrations and emotions with simple breathing techniques can often save a child long before they face the added upset of a meltdown.

Remind them often too that their feelings will change over time and that there will be good times in their life again.

“Blue skies around the corner” as my Nanny Flo would have said. I should note that “Nanny” is what we call our grandmothers in South East England.

Till next time,
Joanne Barrow  



Changes to

In the last month we have been working hard to update and enhance, as it is always our goal to keep our web content fresh and to add value to your INA membership. We invite you to visit and look over the new content for yourself. We updated our Board of Directors page and our Nanny of the Year page to reflect the annual changes from our 2013 conference ceremonies. In addition to these annual changes we also added a page with the new Nanny of the Year logo, detailing the past NOTY recipients, as well as why and how the crest was created. In anticipation of next year’s conference, we have already updated the INA Service Award Pin page and posted the application for the 2014 Pin ceremony. We are also currently working on updating the NOTY application, and it will be posted later this summer, so watch your e-mail for the opening date announcement. Last but certainly not least, we added a new member benefit to the “My Home” page in the membership only section of  This benefit is the ability for INA members to download, co-brand, and print our most popular publications, A Nanny for Your Family, Recommended Practices for Nannies, and our 2012 Nanny Update. We plan to add to this list of publications over the summer, so be on the lookout for even more changes to this summer.                                                          




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